NavymomT님의 저널, 2016년 05월 12일

Navymom, way to know your worth! There is someone out there that wants all of you, not just a roll in the hay. Have a great day. 

I say screw him and move on. It sounds like he wants to keep you along side as plan B so he can have fun with others....if you know what I am getting at. Ive been there too. Believe me, dont waste your time. Move on and find someone that really puts you FIRST. 

@P1199 +1 #next 

Sounds like a stressful time I hope you have a fantastic day. 

Don't rush into a "more" relationship, better to be friends and let it grow into more if it is meant to be -- with or without benefits!! 

A loooooong time ago, when I was single, a guy proposed that kind of arrangement to me. Some friends suggested I play "hard to get" and say no so that he would decide he really wanted more. My sister had the most wisdom. She told me to completely cut off my relationship with him because I would never be able to trust that he didn't have other "friends with benefits." I'm glad I listened to her advice.  

thanks guys. i am taking your advice and moving on...i am worth more than that... 

If you are not being treated as a queen, if you are not being treated as you think you should be treated then time invested is not worth it at all. You are an incredible person do not settle. 

Yes Bruce, I have invested 9 weeks into this "relationship" and now he tells me he want the FWB type of relationship...I am done. 

I support your decision 100% because it is what I would do. Been there, done that though at the time the only reason I did was because he never said that's what he wanted, it just became obvious in time that that's how it was. Just recently he approached me again (after more than 10 years) but I already knew he had a girlfriend. I told him no and made it clear who I was, which is not the person who sneaks behind someone else's back. This is truly a "wolf in sheep's clothing" - a nice, normal guy with family - so I am well aware that a lot of seemingly great guys will do whatever they can get away with. There's someone better for you! 

@NM are you sure you ddin't mean to say "9 1/2 Weeks"? 

"When you learn how much you are worth, you'll stop giving people discounts." ~ ? ------ "Sometimes we expect more from others because we would be willing to do that much for them." ~ LearningMind ------ "Don't be someone's down-time or sometime. If they can't be there for you all the time, then they're not worth your time. ~ lifelovequotesandsayings 

In my experience booty calls are like him using you as meat, harsh I'm sorry but I do't care who thinks what about you. You must know how valuable you are and are allowed to be happy when the right man comes. I used to repeat in the mirror ever day, "I am a treasure and I won't settle for less than a man who treats me as such!!!" Girl when I was younger? I had my share and was someone else's too, now I am older and want nothing less than a precious man who thinks I'm the world, because I am a beautiful special person and so are you. I know this is hard but once you are away from it you will look back and say wth was I thinking xxxxx Kitty 

lol JP.....@SW, I am slowly learning that i need to quit doing for people as much as i do for them. I give my all in 99.9% of everything that i do including relationships..that was the way i was raised. but as time goes by i start thinking that if they cant give me 100% back, i dont need them. @Kitty...what i said to SW also applies to what you said. I will get there and i have been looking back today at what has happened over the last 9 weeks and yes i am now wondering why i wasted that much time on someone who says he is divorcing his wife but yet keeps sleeping in her bed every night or his other girl friend that he didnt know i knew about until 2 weeks ago 

@JP...9-1/2 weeks is a movie isnt it? Not sure but i think i remember watching something with a name like that. 

yep. Mickey Rourke & Kim Basinger. 

JP...i asked my daughter about the one i was thinking about and it was 9 months with Hugh Grant and an actress...who i dont remember 

" Baby take off you coat . . . real slow. . ." - Joe Cocker 

very different movie... 

Sorry this happened ... glad you didn't buckle for a bad deal. Don't you wish that for those times that we wasted (weeks, months...) that we were off doing something we really wanted to do, like snorkeling off the coast of Hawaii, or sightseeing in Australia, or.. ;)