LadyinDenim님의 저널, 2023년 08월 27일

Sorry for the loss. 

Thank you. She was a good person.  

I'm sorry to hear this. I liked my ex MIL too. She was a nice lady. All of his family were.  

My ex and his family are good people. I was the main problem in the relationship and he is better rid of me, so I get it. I think mailing a card will be OK, though. I am getting addresses off the internet and it feels a little stalkerish. I thought of sending the cards care of the cremation society that posted the obituary. That might be better. 

I loved my ex's mom. She treated me with love and respect and even though my DIL is married to someone else I still have a good relationship with her. I still call her my DIL... I think sending a card is a show of respect and leave it at that. 💜 

I'm so sorry to hear this! Sending my condolences! (((HUGS))) for the entire family! 

I am sorry, it was a loss for you as well. These things are complicated. We cannot just turn our feelings off. 

Don’t be hard on the kids. They’re in a difficult situation and they have to deal with the loss too. Nobody like to be the bearer of bad news, especially when it’s a complicated situation. 

Thank you for the condolences. The "kids" are aged 41 and 34. I decided to remain silent with them and just quietly send my sympathies to the exes via USPS because I really do feel badly for them. I remember when I was grieving the loss of my mom, reading sympathy cards actually did help a little. Just knowing other people care what you are going through means something. 

Good on you for not holding grudges! ...and yes ma'am, thoughts & kind words go a long way. 

I just saw this thread. I'm sorry for your loss, of your ex MIL and for the loss of your connections to people who were once important in your life. This is an on-going scar, and the death in the family only brings up the hole in your life. I've got one of those gaping too. Sad. 

Thanks, Erika. My ex continues to be welcomed at my family functions, so he has been witness to weddings and babies born, he visited with my dad before he died and attended the funeral. My sisters, brother, and BIL love him. He and my hubs chat a bit at holidays. I lost touch with his family, although he tells stories about them once in awhile. Our daughter's birthday is Saturday and I hope he doesn't show. I would have to extend my condolences face to face, and I need more than a week before I'm ready to do that.