TheUnhealthyDaddy님의 저널, 2022년 12월 5일

I'm sorry. There is a lot of good advice here already, I just wanted to say it's going to be okay. The decision has kind of already been made for him. Perhaps it's a small window to say what you wanted to say. 

@Kenna, I completely agree. I spent a decade in the ER in my nursing career and very few make it after that long. It is fewer than 18% for unwitnessed event outside hospital for those who don't know. Then 30mins CPR decreases those odds further. He was trying to breathe over the vent at one point. And they aren't sure what caused the cardiac arrest. No bleeds or clots on scan and echo didn't show a heart attack but cardiac cath wasn't done yet. He's only on 2 sedations & 2 abx in ICU. No pressers since BP is stable.  

I am so sorry. I pray that you get the peace of the Lord in all of this and that you and your family get healing.  

Yes I was in the same position,my dad who died this year I've see maybe twice in my life I can remember🤔 when I was 4&seen him at 17 and maybe talked to him maybe three times on the phone since I was 17,now he's died and my aunt's his older sisters want me to have say so over his money& military stuff& everything but I feel I don't even know him he's a stranger to me I don't know his favorite song,food,color,tv show nothing but Ive always had a relationship with my aunt's his sisters so in writing I stated all his money and worldly belongings be given to my aunt who's been actually taking care of him the last couple years while he was sick...I've never received anything from him but my life and am thankful to be alive but you can't miss or cry over what u never had  

I believe it is hitting me harder than I thought it would though. I barely know the man. He is/was an amazing man and genius with 160+ IQ, self taught musician of multiple instruments and computer programmer. He could rebuild a car or motorcycle engine by reading a book. However, with that intelligence came antisocial behaviors since he wasn't able to communicate well with people not on his level. He wasn't a good father but wasn't abusive, just absent. I never hated him nor did his parents or siblings. But when you can't communicate well with someone, you end up stopping communication altogether.  

@Islamic, another man in the absent father club. I'm hoping you got some sort of closure. I think that is what I need. My dad doesn't have much. I hear he has a storage unit. And I'm hoping to find old family photos and maybe some things that can tell me more about the guy. Nobody in the family has heard from him more than a couple times in 20 years. I can't change the past, I'm not going to cry about not having a dad, but I would like to know more about him because he wasn't a bad person.  

Sending prayers 🙏🙏 and hugs for you and your family. 

Man. Very very tough. Be very kind to yourself. However you grieve, it's the right way. Positive vibes to you. 

Sorry to hear that 

Sorry about your dad and thanks for sharing your honesty. It shows great strength. I'll say a prayer for you and your family. Stay strong ❤️ 

Saying that is a rough situation is an understatement. I hope you have some support. Be good to yourself through this difficult time.  

Sorry to hear about this terrible situation. 

Such a sad situation. Wish you the best outcome. Prayers for you AND your dad. ❤️🙏 

Damn 

So sorry for the position you find yourself in. Praying for guidance. 🙏 

Praying for guidance 🙏 

So sorry I know this is tough. You got this! 

I’m so sorry. That’s a difficult place to be in. Prayers! 

prayers for you sir 🙏 not an easy time. may you be led the best way possible.  

My heart and prayers go out to you❣️