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This isn't weight related at all... I just need to talk about it. And I can't really post anything on FB or any other such forum b/c there are people on there that don't want to hear about it again. I'm using this as my outlet since you, my FS friends, don’t know any of the parties involved… This is sad & extremely depressing, so please be warned you may not want to continue… I’m just venting the sadness. I can’t stop thinking about it, and I’m hoping that writing it out helps…
Yesterday I went to the hospital and watched two of my best friends going through one of the worst things that can happen to someone… They lost their baby girl. And it was far enough along in the pregnancy that she (the baby) would have been viable NEXT WEEK… So that means my poor friend had to go through labor and deliver a still baby. I can’t imagine having to go through child-birth and not have that sheer joy at the end that makes it all worth it! This is cruel and unfair… The baby died just from the fluke of something pinching and blocking the flow of the umbilical cord… And I won’t even tell you all the horrifying options the hospital gives you to do with your deceased baby… I mean, the questions they were asking them… it was really awful – and they should have cleared the room before asking a lot of them…
I just couldn’t stop thinking: we're in a hospital room, my friend is in labor, we're measuring contractions - all the things that normally happen for labor. But one thing was glaringly missing… that incredible sound of the baby’s heartbeat. It was just so strange… and wrong… My friends didn’t deserve this, not one bit. They are a wonderful couple and did everything they could to make this pregnancy go as well as possible… I hate that these things happen. My heart is breaking for them. :'(
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That happened to one of my Best Friend's the Friday before Mother's Day. She was 5 months. I'm sorry for your loss, but you must be strong for your Friend... Keep Faith.
2011년 05월 18일 작성이: La Fresa Mas Dulce
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Thank you. I'm sorry for your loss as well. This is the worst... I'm doing my best to be strong for her; that's why I let it out here... just had to get it out before I see her again.
2011년 05월 18일 작성이: deb_bluerose
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This was heartbreaking to read. I wish your friend and her family all the best to get through this difficult time. I can't even imagine how she must feel. The only thing to do for her is offer her love and support through this difficult time. Maybe you could offer to make dinner for her one night or offer some sort of treat she may enjoy. Anything to keep her spirits up - sometimes even saying you'll go for a walk can help her talk and destress. Again, so sorry to hear about this heartbreaking story.
2011년 05월 18일 작성이: healthy_allie
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Thank you all for your encouragement and sympathy. I definitely believe in God. I don't know how people can get through these times without Faith... I couldn't take thinking that the body just goes into the ground and that's it... I like to believe that my friends baby girl is in the arms of her sister that died from cancer last year... I have to believe that.
And Allie, I'm taking her food for sure. All the things she couldn't eat during pregnancy, caffeine, alcohol and chocolate especially! Hope it takes her mind off things, even for a little while. Thank you again for 'listening.'
2011년 05월 18일 작성이: deb_bluerose
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omg, I can't even imagine :'( I'm so sorry for your friends. And what some people won't understand is that even though they hadn't met the baby yet, as a mom or soon to be mom, you already love that baby more than life itself. Being a mom reading your post, I gotta say I teared up instantly. There is nothing that can be done or said to make them "feel better." Just being there for them and supporting them is all you can do. Sometimes the best thing to say is nothing at all except that you love them. All my prayers to your friends during this difficult time.
2011년 05월 18일 작성이: NoChubbyMom
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You're exactly right, NoChubb... That baby was already a part of the family and deeply loved. And you're also right that there is nothing to say. When I got the the hospital, I just looked in her eyes and said "I love you so much, you don't deserve this." There is nothing to do to fix this. I know that time will eventually make the pain less raw, but there's nothing to do... Just love them and be here... I'm sorry to make you all sad. I tear up just thinking about it. I can't wait to go home and wrap my arms around my little girl and thank God for her. Wish my friends had that option. An even harder part is yet to come - they have to tell their 6 year old that he won't be getting his baby sister that he's so excited about. :'(
2011년 05월 18일 작성이: deb_bluerose
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I'm so sorry for your friends and for you...I can't even think what I would do. I'm praying for you all to get through this devastating time.
May God bless you all....
2011년 05월 18일 작성이: thecoach
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Praying for your friends, and you as well. That was a horrible thing to have happened. Bless you all.....
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