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Good morning, my FS friends! I've been absent, but it's been necessary to sort of move in a new direction with my thinking about food, dieting, exercising, and my body image.
As most of you know, I've been in a course called, "Am I Hungry?" It's based on the book by Michelle May titled Eat What You Love, Love What You Eat. We have a lecture/discussion every Tuesday night, and meet in a small group on Thursday night for more of a therapy-like session.
We are focusing on separating our body image from our self-image, and I'm finding that particularly hard. We are also working on moving away from black and white, all or nothing, thinking. I'm sure everyone here can relate: you are on a diet or you are eating everything in sight. You are working out every day, or you are doing nothing. And for me...I'm either crazy in love or I don't want to try to make a relationship work. This black/white thinking is hard to change, and I've certainly put on some weight while trying to figure it out. I have hope though...This course is intensive. I have to work on it every day.
Here is something that I found particularly profound, and that you might want to try: Write a letter to your body telling it how you feel about it. I was amazed at the feelings that came up. Then write a letter from your body to yourself. I can't say that the letters changed everything, but I've started a personal journal of letters to and from my body, and it is helping me be more caring and loving toward myself and my body. Overeating is so damaging, and I'm sorry I've done that to my body.
I can't promise that I'll be updating regularly, but I will give it a try as new messages make it through the thickness of my skull and into my psyche. Take care of YOU, and be kind to yourself.
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Hey Deb!! So happy to 'see you'. What you mention here is similar to something that a FS buddy and I have been discussing. She gets newsletters from dianepetrella.com (I think) and it is about being kind to your body. We tend to forget that we only have one body.
Part of my journey (and I think what has kept me on a better way of eating....I refer to it as WOE as it is not a diet for me) is the realization that God gave me this body and it is up to me to take care of it. By this time I should know what makes it feel better or worse (as far as what I put into it) and those are all conscious choices that I make. This way of thinking has really helped me not focus so much on the scale; of course I still have a (kind of goal) but in reality my overall goal is to feel better, and that is why I started back on the WOE that I have...I knew it would make me feel better. I try to remind myself that my body thanks me everytime I exercise it and put the foods into it that makes it happy (in other words not putting in the foods that make my joints ache...lol). It is a long process to get to this point and I think that is why in the past I have not been able to stay there because my goal was about 'looking better' and not so much about 'feeling better' and taking better care of what God gave me.
I hope that is not too much rattling about. I am really proud of you and the journey that you have been on!! I think when realize that everything is always a journey and really we work at everything in life...our relationships, our jobs, why wouldn't we work at taking the best possible care of ourselves....if we can do that then sometimes the other things start to fall in place a little 'neater'.
Take care of yourself and I look forward to 'hearing' from you again!
2013년 04월 17일 작성이: jaime30024
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Great journal, thank you.
2013년 04월 17일 작성이: 2toofat
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hope you get to a happy medium place. seperating body image from self image would be impossible it seems for me.
2013년 04월 17일 작성이: JessWhatINeeded
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@Jaime, We are learning to be less restrictive, but like you, certain foods hurt my joints and give me gas, so I need to stay away from them to feel good. I have so much to learn and understand! @Jess, it is going to take a lot of work. That's why I am continuing the letters. As a mother, I can think of my body separately but part of me, like my children. When I write letters to my body, I think of it as one of my children. You are right about the happy medium, I am trying to get the pendulum to stop swinging, and just settle somewhere in the middle. It's hard, but I no longer feel it's impossible.
2013년 04월 17일 작성이: Djburney
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Good to hear from you. Quite a tough challenge for me is the all or nothing thinking as well. It sounds like you have found a great program though that is targeting exactly what you need. I hope it continues to go well!
2013년 04월 17일 작성이: Bkeller1023
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